Real Talk: Navigating disappointment

 The other week I released a blog titled 'Wife Talk', this is going to cover any topics related to marriage and specifically being a wife. Today I wan't to launch 'Real Talk', which is where I share some of the challenges I'm facing and how I'm learning to live life to the full in-spite of those challenges.

Today I want to talk about disappointment. I found a quote from American evangelist Billy Graham which I think is a good place to start.

' Don't let failure or disappointment cut you off from God or make you think that the future is hopeless. When God closes one door, He often opens another door - if we seek it'

We will all walk through disappointment in our lives, we live in a broken world so therefore we must accept we will experience failure and disappointment. The first thing I want to say is that we shouldn't assume just because life hasn't worked out as we planned that God isn't in our lives, or that He doesn't love us. As Billy Graham said sometimes God closes a door in our lives so another better door can be opened, but we need to seek it. If we let ourselves remain in disappointment we will be stuck in between the door that was closed and the door that is open that we dare not walk through, or maybe we don't even know it's there.

The second thing I want to say is that you can be disappointed and upset something didn't work out, or that life isn't going as you planned and still find a way to navigate through the pain and push forward. I would be lying if I said my heart journey hasn't been disappointing, there are times I ask God 'why me?'. I let myself remain stuck for so long, yearning for dreams of the past and fearful for the future, it was exhausting. Only recently did I have this realisation that I need to do something about this, I can't let myself get stuck.

For me personally there have been some things I've done to help myself navigate through these challenges:

1. Trust in God's timing and His plan for my life

2. Be thankful for the season I'm in

3. Seek support from professionals (such as therapy, counselling etc)

4. Tell myself that my difficult situation is not my identity

5. Seek those open doors


Your journey will be different to mine, but the one thing I want everyone to take from this blog is don't get stuck between a closed door and an open door. Don't let self pity prevent you from stepping into something amazing. That open door may not be what you pictured or planned, but if it's from God it will be far greater.

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